Intuitive Powers - Can Your Intuition Save You From A Bad Marriage?

Can You Rely On Intuition In Choosing partners... Friends or Lovers?

A friend asked me over Thanksgiving what I thought about asking a certain woman I know out.

He said...

1. He found her attractive..she is...fun...sly...frisky.
2. She is smart...and has a lot of common sense.
   
3. She had made very strong overture...a "Why haven't you asked me out?" phone call from her
   
4. He had blown here off before as 1) To difficult and 2) Her having a kid is not compatible with his lifestyle. 
5. He has plenty of women to choose from
6. Their astrological signs are a perfect match...and how could the stars be wrong?
7. He was at a party where she showed up and all her friends had demanded that he ask her out...was it fate???
8. He had asked her out before...but she was always tied up...and who wants that.
   

I asked him what he "Felt".

His Answer.... "The Reasons for and against".  Blah...Blah..Blah.

I told him that wasn't what I asked. 

I asked the Simple...Yes or No.

That's how the Intuition Answers...Yes or No.

Not maybe.
 
Sometimes...Do Do Not Pass Go... Do Not Collect Two Hundred Dollars

Sometimes... "Sleep On It"  But usually it's a straight Yes...or No.

But never....Welllllll....

But he wasn't really asking for an answer, was he?

He was like a lot of people. He knew the answer. He knew what he was going to do. But he needed to hear someone else say "That's great"

I wasn't letting him off so easy.  I was bored and wanted to have some fun.

Plus, he was asking the wrong question.

He was asking...."Should I go out with her."

What he should really be asking..."Is is going to be worth all the trouble and aggravation"

I Asked Him For His Gut Reaction...What Did He Say?

I asked him..."What do you really deep down inside think you should do?"

His answer...avoid her.

Guess what my feedback was?

Audience Participation:  What did he do?

Did he follow his gut?  Send me a note and tell what you thought.  It's kind of like the Lady and the Tiger story.

It's his choice.  But which one will he make????

Using your intuition in making Interpersonal Decisions Can Be More Powerful Than Just Logic Alone

Now this is not some world shattering or life changing decision.  The best thing that can happen is he'll go out...have a good time...maybe keep seeing her.

The worst thing that can happen is it doesn't work out...he's a little embarrassed...they go on separately.

And hopefully he learns when he can trust himself. Kind of an Intuitive Training Exercise.

But what about other decisions?

What kind of decisions?

Should you ask someone out?
Should you stay dating?
Is this person a good friend?
Should I stay a friend?
Can I trust them?
Should I trust my money with them?
I know, but there family so I should...

Go on...name your own dilemmas.

Because it is a dilemma. It's confusing because there is so much history and emotion in the answer you want. 

There Can Be Two Different Answers

Keep in mind that you might get two different answers about the same person.  But then they're probably two different questions.

Question #1
Do I like him?  Yes.

Question #2
Should I trust him?  No.

Same with biz partners.

You might get along with someone...but does that mean you want to make them your business partner?  Or confidante?

The subconscious is always one step ahead.  It's taking all you've ever experienced and learned and thought...and giving you the answer.

Most people don't pay attention.

It's like "Who Wants To Be A Millionaire"

There might be several different answers.  But only one is going to move you forward.

The Intuition usually gives you The Final Answer.

But you'll keep asking..."Come on...give me another answer"  That's code for..."I don't like that answer...give me something that I want to hear"

A Woman's Intuition And Sex

A woman doesn't know if she would sleep with a guy she first meets him.

But she does know who she won't sleep with...in about 60 seconds.

Whether it's attraction...experience...whatever...her Intuition warns her away from the bad choices.

What about guys who are asked the same question?

(Give me a break...that's a trick question if there ever was one!)

I also read in the What Color Is Your Parachute Book which is about career choices and planning that a high school grad will quit his job in under a month when it's not a good fit.  He knows quickly.  And act quickly

It takes a college grad college grad 4-5 years to figure out he's in the wrong place.  And then maybe he'll do something about it.

His Intuition may have told him early on...Get out of here.  But he trusts his logic and mind more...all that education...and keeps giving it "one more year" to make sure.  Hmmm.  Kind of sounds like dating and marriage too?

The point is...you might hear what you Intuition says...but choose to act against it's direction.

Don't be embarrassed.

It happens all the time.

The other point is...most people will trust a No answer when it doesn't really affect their life.  If they want something really badly...they will always turn that No into a Maybe...and then say Yes.

I'm not saying ignore Reason and Logic when making decisions.  It's good to feed your mind the Logic and Reasons and Information.

Then let it do it's job of putting it together.

But I am saying that it's harder to trust your Intuition in the matters of the heart and personal biases.

Thanks,

Intuitive John

PS  What's the Worst That Can Happen...The really worst thing that can happen to my friend ...is his Intuition is right on...but he ignores it...he tries to prove himself right...they never get along...they get married...it's terrible for years...they have a terrible divorce...and he says ten years later "I wish I would have trusted my gut".  :)

PPS I could always ask him to ask himself...WWAD?

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