If You Really "Let Go"...Then What??? Letting Go Series Part 4

                                                  Are You Lost...or Just Stuck?

• Do you want to predict the future?
• Do you  want to control the future?
• Do you hesitate sometimes...not really sure what will happen.  

• What if you could act without worrying about these things?

Why do you procrastinate?

Why do you make up mind one moment...and then change it the next?

One day you're ready to make an offer on the the house...the next day, you're not.
I love the house...it's perfect...it's time to move...settle my family in...BUT is it the right time...the market?...will I be happy here?

One day you're going to start a new business to give you freedom in the future...the next day NO WAY!
I love the idea of freedom...I'm compelled to make more money and have more security...life won't change unless I do...BUT...is this the right time...is this the right path...it won't hurt to wait a little bit...Fred tried it and look what happened to him...

One day you're going to change the color of your hair...the next day...mmmm...maybe not.
I like my hair the way it is...but I've had it for so long...will Susie like it...is short in...I wonder if I can get an appointment...will I have to tip her more because it's a new style for me...what if she doesn't understand what I'm looking for and I hate it...I can't wear a hat forever!

The core of delay comes from uncertainty..

When you don't make a decision...and you whipsaw back and forth from the uncertainty...you get exhausted.

And here's the rub.

You have all the information.  You've thought it through. Planned.  Figured most of it out.

But you're stuck.  You may even be paralyzed into inaction.

What Can You Do To Get Unstuck?

You already "Know The Answer"  You probably made it early on.

But you've overloaded your mind with so much information...and colored it with so much emotion...it can't make a clear decision. You're not giving it any breathing room.

You're in a vicious cycle.

You have a choice to make.

Step 1: You don't make a decision.
Step 2: You add "MORE INFORMATION!".  You disguise it as "You'll be better prepared"
Step 3: Ooops.  Adding more info only raised the confusion.
Step 4: So you don't make the decision...you add more info...you get more confused.

Sound familiar?

Have you tried "Letting Go" of the problem?

I don't mean you don't care any more.  Though that may be possible...and favorable.

What I mean is Mentally Releasing yourself from the negative side of your questions and problems.  What  I mean is clearing out enough space in your mind so you can think and act clearly.

Your mind can be compared to a cluttered closet like my friend Jennifer Skinner talks about.  (She talks about the Closet...not the Mind!)

If you have to much stuff in your closet...you can't see what your choices are.

If you have to much stuff in your closet...it's crammed so full you have to fight to get into it. 

If you have to much stuff in your closet...it's cluttered...unsightly...you waste a lot of time...you have to many choices...and you don't wear a lot of it anyway

That's the way your mind is.  Crammed full of useless stuff.

So you can begin adding some balance and peace of mind to your life by learning to Let Go.

That might sound weird.  But it works. 

It works better for guys than girls.  We know from experience many things work themselves out. 

Many women have a hard time ignoring "problems".  Their empty emotional space fills itself with worry.

The laws of the Physical World and the Mind World are different.

In the Mind World...Effort Defeats Itself.

Put another way...the more you try to force an answer...the harder it is to decide.  It doesn't leave room for other, unexpected options to show up.

So by ignoring it...by letting go of it ( At least  the top thing in your mind) the more time you're Intuitive Mind has to work things through.

Leaving things alone lets time have it chance for things to heal themselves. 

For instance, I had an employee problem the other day. Part attitude.  Part performance.  Part distraction. Slipping up on the job when usually right on.  Been happening for a while.  Now at a point where it needed some attention. 

I was in a low mood. My mind said I should step in an "fix it". "It's my right.  I'm the Boss!  It's my job!" Right

By the way...you can't trust your Mind very much when you're in a Low or Bad Mood.  When you're in a bad mood everything becomes critical...everything becomes important...and has to be solved right now!  Bad idea. Terrible idea.

And I knew that.

So I stepped back...and gave it a chance to fix itself. 

The guy working for me came to me two days later...brought it up himself...and had fixed it himself.  Problem solved.  No fuss.  No muss.  No emotional angst on my part.

Have you ever had the compulsion to tell your best friend something. It's important.  It seems urgent. But somethings holding you back.

You don't say anything.  And it turns out you're glad you didn't?

Your Intuitive Mind knows "The Need"

It's waiting for the Right Time.

That's not procrastination...That's timing.

#2 The Letting Go List -  Escaping The Whirlwind of Indecision

Most of the anxiety around Letting Go comes when you are trying to make too many decisions at once.

No matter how smart you think you are...you're mind can only work on one thing at a time.

It may seem like you're working on more.  But  your thoughts are jumping around...back and forth...like popcorn.

Research show you collect information in your long term memory circuits. 

But Conscious Decision Making happens in your Short Term memory.

That's like the RAM of your brain.

It can only hold so much.  Research shows maybe 3 or 4 things for a very short period of time.  Mostly 1 or 2.

Example:

You're trying to remember a phone number...Thought 1.

A friend calls over to you...Thought 2

You are concentrating on finding a pencil...Thought 3

Boom...your forgot the phone number.

So by letting go of all the thoughts in your mind...all the decisions...all the concerns...you free up your mind to find the decision that has to be made right now.

If you don't have much experience, I suggest you start out by writing down everything you're Letting Go of.

Just start writing down what's on your mind. 

For example...

"I'm Letting Go Of..."

1. Applying for new job
2. Needing to finish this report.
3. Wondering where I'm going Saturday night.
4. Writing my blog.
5. Trying to get out work early
6. Feeling guilty that I didn't run this morning
7. Wondering if I left anybody off my Christmas card list?
8. Was I paid for that last article I wrote
9. How should I price this today?
10. Did I mistake a mistake last week by having this guy try to fix my computer?
11. Wondering when I should leave for Christmas?
12. 10 Million More Things.......
    

This represents about 3 seconds worth of uncontrolled thinking.

Start writing.  You'll know when to stop.

The Science Of The Letting Go List- Some Tips

1) Some thoughts  are statements.
 
Statements are often accompanied by emotions.   Quick judgments might come up.  That's fine.  But don't dwell on them. 

This is Letting Go...not Digging Deeper.

2) Some thoughts come out as questions. Should you answer them?

What you'll find is when you write the questions down...the answers will become obvious.  You are opening a doorway for your Intuition.  Otherwise, don't spend any time right trying to answer a complicated question.  That's what got you into this mess.

3) Writing Vs. Thinking - Which works best?

If you are new to Letting Go...write. 

Overtime as you get more practice...thinking can be used as a quick stop gap when the mind is whirling away.

If the mind is out of control...Go directly to writing.

4)  Should I Write Out "I'm Letting Go" before each statement?

It can be helpful if your mind is moving too fast. 

By writing it down before each thought...it slows your thoughts down by slowing your hands down.  Slowing yourself physically can slow yourself mentally at the same time.

However, if you want to Purge your thoughts...just write them down as fast as they come.  It doesn't even matter if you can read what you wrote

You can get fancy if you want. Turn the preface into an Affirmation or Prayer type thought.

"I'm Letting Go of all my troubles, cares and disturbing thoughts...and letting the Universe take on the burden of my cares..." 

Try one different techniques.

You'll also find that different styles can fit different moods.

With more practice, you'll naturally slip into the writing pattern that fits your mood and problems at the time.

#3 The Golden Key Method - Stop Thinking About The Particular Problem

The Golden Key is a method of Substitution.  You exchange the the thoughts that are bothering you with other thoughts.

Instead of thinking about a particular problem...Say to yourself...I am Golden Keying (this problem, this person, this event) and then think of
a Neutral thought.  If your Spiritually or Religiously inclined...turn that thought over to God. You see the slogan...Let Go and Let God? That's the same thing.

The trick is so stop thinking about what's on your mind.

And then leaving it behind. 

Three little tips.

1) Ignore the thought it if it tries to sneak back in.
2) Once may not be enough. That's fine.  Just keep Golden Keying it.
3) Don't try to solve the problem  That's technically Underlining The Problem and not really turning it over.

In a way, this is an Conscious/Awake and Aware style of meditation.  Pretty advanced stuff.

If you have ever meditated, you know that all kinds of thoughts try to intrude on your mind when you are clearing it out.  In fact, the more you try to clear out...or calm your mind...the faster the thoughts try to stream in.  Especially if you are new to Meditation.

Thoughts are like Advertising.  You can see hundreds or thousands of images a day and you filter them out automatically.

But if you're ready to buy a new car, all of a sudden car ads start popping up everywhere.  You're inviting them in. So it seems like there's more of them...thought they were always there.

It's not "more thoughts".  It's awareness is going up.  (More Cowbell!)

I'm not saying you won't do those things.  I'm saying it clears your mind out.

The practice here is not avoiding action.  Though you may not take action...it comes from a clear mind...not confusion and anxiety.

The result you're looking for here is Clearing Out Your Mind.

It's like the Athlete who talks about "Being In The Zone"

When you're in the Zone...everything looks clear...it's easier to make decisions...the difference between important and unimportant events is obvious...and you aren't thinking about taking action...you're just acting in a flow where everything works together.

Learning How To Let Go is one of the first step in being able to put yourself into the Zone at will.

It might sound weird at first...but the more you practice it...the more you'll see it's true.

Thanks,

Intuitive John

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